Do you want to be happy? I know I do, heck I’m already on my journey! A lot of people in this world are searching for a way to achieve happiness, but they go for the wrong things that they THINK are going to make them happy. Lets face it, most people in this world are not happy people, I’m from NYC so I know;). It just gives me this sickening feeling knowing that most peoples lives are going to be filled with misery and in extreme cases temptation. Yes I said temptation because if you are not a very happy person, or happy with your life eventually you are going to think that life sucks and you wont care. And what happens if you don’t care? You wont care about your self as much and the same thing for everyone else, which in turn would increase temptation (the desire to do unpleasant things) whether to yourself or to others. Life ultimately is about being happy with yourself and that. Yea there are other things that are important as well, but they don’t compare to happiness. The reason why I wrote this was because I want to help you achieve happiness as much and as effective as possible, because I know how it feels to not be happy:(. So I am going to write a nice line article about how to live a happy life. Lets get it!
1. Do what you love
This is the one of the most (if not the most) important thing that you would ever need to do in your life to make your self happy. I want you to really think about this deeply, how would you feel if you were doing something you like every single day? It would be amazing wouldn’t it? You need to center your life around your passion, that is what is going to give you life, joy, thrill and excitement. Sometimes it may not be easy to follow your passion, but it is totally worth it! Think about it you would be waking up every single day with absolute positivity and ready to jump start your day for the rest of your entire life. You know that you are doing something that lies with your interests and not doing some thing that you don’t care about. Most people unfortunately never wind up doing something that they truly love doing. They get up everyday in the morning and go to a job they don’t care about JUST to make money, and I am talking long term, not short term, because everyone needs money. But spending years upon years doing something that you don’t like? You would need to look for another job, or quit all together and do something that transpires to greatness. Spending most of your life doing something that you don’t have a passion for at all is soul killing, dehumanizing, and utterly worthless. You would even end up regretting your life and wishing you would start over! It is said that regrets is more painful than the fear of doing something. OUCH! Now that is no way to live life. If you want to start your journey to live your life to the fullest, start doing the things you love!
2. Be resourceful
As selfish humans we tend to think that keeping things to ourselves would make us happier. I could understand that because we as a species are naturally selfish and we are programmed to keep things to our selves for our own survival. That was back during the Paleolithic era, but guess what? We are not in that era, and we would not be living like we did during that era in the foreseeable future. We are in the 21st century and there hasn’t been a better time to give back. Anyways like I said above, people underestimate the value of giving back to others that are in need or underprovided. Most of us just buy expensive stuff and we hoard it with our lives, with out providing value to others. I am not saying that buying expensive things is bad, in fact it can actually be pretty good. I get that part, but the other part that’s not good is when we don’t give back whatsoever. I want you to trust me on this….giving back really makes you feel much better about yourself. Giving back doesn’t have to be a huge thing, or you to be the next global leader. It could be as small as bringing a stroller down for a mother, or giving a dollar away to that homeless person on the street. I’m saying this from experience, so I know how it feels like to give back and it feels very heartwarming! If you have a lot of money, this would be of good use to donate to charity! So what ever you do give back, obviously without putting yourself into poverty. Also you don’t have to use money to help people BTW, but if you do that’s fine. Now go make a change!
This is one part that I had struggled with for years and it made me feel miserable! Ever wonder why any normal person who doesn’t socialize are very miserable people? This is excluding extroverts BTW. That’s because we are on average social creatures. When I was in school I would socialize so seldom, that I would occasionally talk to myself. I’m very serious, it is not a good thing. There is a reason why most of us want to make friends or just mingle with people, because we need to socialize! Try to not talk to anyone for three days and see what happens, you would go absolutely crazy! Even people who are shy, after they finish talking to someone or a few people they feel much better. Because they are going through a process of communication. There is a reason why there is a term called loneliness. You know why? Because that symbolizes the lack of social engagement. Think about it during socializing time there is often laughter, fun and joking around, and sometimes love. We need all of these things to make us happy. One of the big perks of socializing is that if you have a problem, you can tell a specific person, or a few people how you are feeling, and perhaps they would help you. So clearly socializing is important.
4. Be yourself
Whatever you do in life, never change who you are! You should never change yourself for someone else, or for a certain situation that I’m in. I remember when I was in high school and I tried to act like the “cool kids” in the school because of my low self-esteem. It backfired really badly, that’s all I can say! You should also never compare yourself to others, that is one of the most self destructive things you can ever do to yourself. You are putting your sense of self worth at risk. The best way I can explain this is that you are taking a piece of your self mentally (how you feel about yourself) and trading it in on someone else who probably doesn’t know you exist. You are who YOU really are. You have to realize that everyone is special in their own way. I hate to say this but comparing yourself to others is one of the stupidest things you can ever do. Do you know why? Well…because you are not that person, its that simple. You would be wasting your energy for no reason, except you would be hurting yourself. So for your sake of your well being, DO NOT compare yourself to others. Just be yourself!
5. Know your worth
Never EVER let someone tell you what you are worth! Especially if it is something negative. I am not just talking about money here either. I am talking about the ability to do things, or your feelings towards that ability. The only person that knows there self worth is YOU. If someone tells you that you would never amount to anything, please don’t listen to them. They are just trying to put you down by saying negative things to you. If you know that you are a great person at heart then it doesn’t matter. If you help people and you know that you have done great things in the past, there is nothing to lose. Remember nobody would be able to value you more than you value yourself. You should never settle less than what you deserve. Also you know what to offer. If its money, how much you think you are worth financially? A lot of people always put their worth based on money, so I am going to mention it too. Are you worth $1000, $10,000, $100,000…….more? Once again, never measure your self-worth DIRECTLY to money, that is not the best way to do it. Yes money helps, but it is not the “end all be all” everything. What’s more important is the value you give. KNOW YOU WORTH! No one knows better than you.
6. Try new things
Routine work/action is one very effect killer of happiness. As for me, if I’m doing the same thing over and over again it feels so repetitive that I get bored of doing it. I have seen a lot of people that do the same thing over and over for years, and they look like they just came from hell. Haven’t you noticed that the people who try new things in their life always seem to be far more happier than those who don’t? The main reason for that is because the people who try new things never achieve boredom. They always find out new things in the world, whether it be food, a certain place, or even a new language. They know that life is full of hidden surprises and interesting things and there would always be something new to experience. Trying new things is perhaps the best way to minimize complete boredom. You should go out there and just do something that you never did before, like eat at a new restaurant, go to a park you never went to, or read a new book. Another VERY effective way to do this is to meet new people and socialize with them. I have done this (and still doing this) personally and it helps A LOT. Believe me in this, if you have done this somewhat, you would know what I’m talking about;). Do not go into an endless cycle of doing the same thing, going to the same place, eating the same food, even talking to the same people. Life is about trying different things, and a big part of that is travel, the Earth is about 8,000 miles wide, that is way to big to stay in one place. You only live once, so make the best of it.
7. Be an inspiration to others
This perhaps is one of the most fulfilling experience, right next to being resourceful. No matter how you want to live like, you would in the long run eventually want to feel like you are inspiring someone. Whether it be your work ethic, your intelligence or even in a place you live, feeling like someone is looking up to you for good reason is one of the best feelings in the world. It is something that you have to experience, rather than reading what I’m writing here, to actually know what it feels like. No matter what is going on in your life, you always want to get that feeling that someone is looking up to you, that is just a natural part of us. Think about it, if you ever experienced someone telling you that they would like to be like you when they get older, how do you feel like, pretty good heh? Well that what that is. When you see someone that is successful, or at least on their way there, every time when someone tells them that they changed their life and they get motivated by them they get emotional. Its not to show off or create drama and draw attention, it is because it is a strong and great feeling. People looking up to you for the right reasons would skyrocket your self esteem and self worth like never before. I guarantee that you would feel much happier when you become this type of person. Notice I said “when”. That is because I believe that anyone, especially YOU can do it! You should always have this mindset of “when”. Its a matter of when it happens. It puts your brain to work.
8. Be optimistic
This one is pretty obvious, but worth speaking about. I cant stress enough that in order for you to achieve happiness, or at least maintain your happiness, you would have to be optimistic. There are people out there that ask “but what if I am not an optimistic?” Well if you are not I got one thing to tell you, if you are a pessimistic person, you would NEVER be happy. You would have to train yourself to think positively. I know this sounds very straight to the point, but you have no other choice. Nobody can think positive for you, you would have to work on it. One way you can be optimistic about the world and as well as your future is to be open minded to anything in life. Don’t let people or the media dictate on how you are supposed to feel. The media can be very effective in showing the masses on how bad this world is. The reason why they do this is because people tend to be more interested in watching the bad things that happens in the world. The world is not nearly as bad as what the media portrays. As for your future, you should also have an optimistic approach to that as well because that would effect the rest of your life positively. Obviously you are going to encounter negative thoughts and feelings, and that is natural. You just have to minimize it. Life is worth thinking about great things. Not wasting it away on bad things that probably don’t matter to you. Be as positive as you can in your life.
9. Be grateful
Always be happy with what you have. You never know what could happen in your life. You should always be happy with what you have, because you would never know when you would lose something and need it again. In other words you have to value the things that you have very highly, because later on you might realize how important the stuff that you had was to you. Another reason, and one that I think is the most important is that no matter what situation you have, there is ALWAYS somebody that is in a worse situation than you, no matter how bad you think it is. I see a lot of people out there that complain about the little and simplest things, and I think to myself like “OMG why do you complain so much, is nothing that serious!”. Please don’t be like those people! It is literally POISONOUS to you mentally and emotionally. If you are not grateful you would never be a happy person. There are so many people out there like this unfortunately. You would be missing so many of the simpler things that you have in life just because you didn’t appreciate it. It is proven that if something is taken away from a person and then it is given back, they would value it more! Think about that. Doesn’t it sound amazing? So many don’t realize that they could be a lot happier if they express gratitude and not focus on the things they don’t have. Instead if you are grateful you would be “living” in the present moment and being happy with whatever you have, even if you want to be successful. There are so many ways on how to be grateful, that it would be too much to write in this article alone. So express and spread the marvelous energy of gratitude!
10. Live in the moment
There would be times when I would think too far ahead and stress myself out. I realized this is not the way to go in life, and that it is not worth the energy to think too much about my future and get a headache from doing so. Life is about being in the present and not in the future. A good way to be in the present moment is to breathe deeply and meditate. You can do this anywhere and anytime. However the best times to do this is for 30 minutes in the morning and 30 min in the evening (not before you sleep because you would have problems trying to sleep). This works tremendously well if you do it consistently, your sense of awareness would be much greater also. There are a lot of ways on how to get into the present moment. How to stay in the present moment is not as hard as you think. Don’t stress yourself, live in the now!