Going through depression is an extremely difficult diagnosis to over come. It could have a ripple effect on your well being as well as perform certain things that you would do otherwise. There is a feeling of hopelessness, intense negativity and low energy. Depression also causes ones self-esteem and confidence to drop like a huge rock. While depression has a lot of negative things, there are also unseen positive things that go with it. Im not saying it is good to be in a state of depression, I’m just saying that you can learn from it, once you get yourself out of it, in a good way.
The reason why I am writing this article is because I want you guys to think that no matter how bad the situation is, there is always some positive light at the end of the tunnel. For the people who are reading this article, including YOU, congratulations on taking this big step to improving yourself! If you have depression this article is a MUST READ. If you don’t and/or you got out of that situation, this article is still going to be very beneficial to you! Below this paragraph I am going to write the things that I have learned a long the way after I went through depression. With that being said lets enjoy the show.:)
1. Happiness is the most important thing to get out of life
For those of you guys that went through depression, this should be your fist goal on your list. Think about it, when you are going through that horrible period in your life, do you like it and enjoy it? Of course not! Because you are not feel feeling happy for yourself, instead you are feeling sorry for yourself! It doesn’t matter how much money you have or how many people like you, if you are not happy, it doesn’t matter. Happiness in itself the most important trait to live a quality life. After I came out of my depression and knowing how badly I felt about myself and all the negative thoughts I had, I realized that being (truly) happy was the most important thing for me and everyone else around me. I just hate it when most people don’t really look at the most important fundamentals of life, which is health and happiness. They just look at life as something that you just live through and die, whether they are happy or not. To me that is POISONOUS thinking, if you are not happy, you are not going to be passionate about anything. The bottom line is that people that have, or have been through depression understand the importance and value of happiness. I learned this the hard way.
2. You realize the real value of contributing
Ever since I got over my depression I realized that giving back and or contributing was more important and fulfilling than I ever thought. I also realized that I came back from a horrible situation and I felt that I HAD to help out, because I know how it feels when you have no help and are in a bad situation. I feel that if you go through a very bad situation, that is when your eyes would open and begin to realize that no matter what type of contributing you are doing, you are adding tremendous value to someone else. When you are contributing to someone else it also give you a sense of joy. Haven’t you noticed that the people who go through bad experience contribute the most? Well because they know how it feels like and they want to help others.
3. You should do something that you like
This correlates very strongly to number one on the list, which is happiness. Imagine doing something that you don’t like for your entire life, you would be miserable! As a person who went through this and perhaps others, we realize that we cant do something we don’t like for the long term even, if we get paid for it. I have been very unhappy before, so I realize that in order for me to not go back to that situation, I would have to do something that makes me happy. So basically my happiness depends on doing something that I like in my life. If you have been through depression you would know exactly what I mean. Even people without depression should understand this, its just that me and the rest of my “group” understand it more.
4. You cant make everybody happy
Often times we are feeling so bad about ourselves that we begin to search for happiness, by trying to make someone happy. In other words we are relying on how someone feels about us to make us happy. I used to be like that in my school years, where I would try so hard to make someone happy, I would forget about myself. I would use so much of my energy to try to make others happy because I didn’t feel happy about myself. I forgot about the most important thing in my life, ME! Eventually I realized that I couldn’t make everyone happy. After I found that out, I stopped using so much of my wasted energy on making everyone happy. Ever since that time, I feel so much happier overall. I also taught to myself that I went through a rough time and that the first person that has to become happy is myself. So that’s what I did, I focus on my self (in a non selfish way).
5. You realize that making yourself happy is your main priority.
I cant stress this enough. People who have gone through a lot in life especially after depression, realize that happiness is their main priority, no matter what they went through. They want to be the happiest they can be, because they know that life is not worth living if they are very unhappy. As for me, this is my main priority, no matter how much money I make, or how smart I am.
6. Be yourself no matter what happens
Sounds familiar, well maybe because it is! There was a time that I wanted to be like other people. I would always try to act “cool” in front of people. I would always feel like I wasn’t worth it to nobody. I felt like I wasn’t good enough, for other people. Everytime when I would be myself I would feel weird and insecure. But I didnt even know that actually PRETENDING to be someone else would make me feel insecure and decrease my confidence. The main reason for this is because I started looking after other people and not myself. Once I started being myself, I looked at myself more and actually cared about myself. This eventually lead me to overcome my depression.
7. Always try to be happy no matter what life throws at you
After going through that mess, I realized I could handle just about anything that comes into my life. I always tell myself that if I could recover from depression and suicidal thoughts, I could go through basically anything! If you are in a state of depression, always know that it is a tough thing to fight against, and that you would create a much stronger mind for yourself. You also have to know that life is going to throw you all sorts of curve balls at you, no matter how successful you are. Life is always going to have its ups and downs. You just got to learn how to cope with it. Over the years after the depression I have been managing myself more effectively when it comes to negative influence. I believe that it is one of the most important things you can ever do to yourself.
8. Always know that your family loves you
This may not be a romantic novel that I am writing, but this is so true and also very important. I know you are thinking “duh obviously my family loves me, that is why they are my family right?” Well yes you know that, but it is easier said than done when you are suffering from major depression. When this was happening to me, I did not think about my family at all, and I would not care about how they feel when I am gone. I mean like come on, I didn’t care about myself, and you think I cared for my family? It doesn’t work like that. I had a lot of suicidal thoughts, and I just wanted to leave this planet. After an incident I had, my parents told me that they love me, and it would of been selfish to leave this planet without them.